Lay down some ground rules
After you have considered carefully and made a decision that you wish to be in an open relationship, you will want to establish some ground rules with your partner. You also need to come to a conclusion on what an open relationship means to each of you.
You must be straightforward. Everybody is different and words carries various meanings to each individual.
1. Sex boundaries
First of all most people living in an open relationship follow the rule of “sex and nothing more”. If both agreed, that means you can have other sex partners but you won’t get involved in romantic relationships other than your primarily partner.
You will want to set boundaries about the amount of sex as well. How many times and how many partners comfortable for the both of you.
You should also discuss details about the sexual practices. Don’t shy away from it! If you don’t discuss it now, it may hurt you in the future.
2. Emotional boundaries
Basically it means that you are taking care of each other’s emotions and feelings. While it may be okey for one of you to be on online dating platforms but the other isn’t comfortable with that as it may make them feel that they are not in a serious relationship.
Honesty is the key. You may want to talk about what happens if you get emotionally involved with your sexual partner and how you will address it as a couple.
Establish how much time you are allowed to spend with others every month for instance. Find the balance and take into consideration both of your needs and wishes. It’s crucial that you have enough time for each other.
You have a life together. You have routines and agreements. Don’t mess with that!
If you are new to being in an open relationship set a “review” to sit down with your partner and look back the last 3 months and see how it has been going for both of you. It may be very helpful as things can come up which were hidden before.
Situations, feelings can change from time to time. Bring these up and discuss it with your partner. If you are happy and you are having the best time of you life – express it. If you got hurt for some reason but didn’t bring it up at that point – don’t hesitate to let it come out.
Should you want any change or amendments, talk it thorough with your partner and come to a solution or new agreement.