Society has always marked individuals or group of people based on various factors such as religion, race, cultural background, color, sex and as surprising as it sounds but even on relationship status.
All over the world the single population is growing and it requires a lot of research and study to understand this newfangled phenomenon.
Unfortunately there is a tendency that shows an increasing judgmental view on single community.
Recent studies have been carried out where people typically described married couples as nice, wise, mature and honest whilst single people were named scattered, ugly, lonely and immature. It is therefore clear that society gives preferential treatment to married people over the prejudiced single ones.
One of the most common term that you hear as a single is “You will be happier once you married”.
There is a truly fascinating online interview – which you can find here – with Bella DePaulo who was described by Atlantic magazine as America’s foremost thinker and writer on the single experience. She said:
You would think with all of this celebration of marriage and coupling and weddings that married people would be happier. But it turns out that if you follow the same people over the course of their lives and ask them over and over again, “Are you happy? Are you happy? Are you happy? How happy are you?” It turns out that when people get married they end up no happier than they were when they were single.
I believe you can back this up from your own experiences.
Look around you, your friends, the community you belong to, your parents, yourselves.
Do you really think being married is better than not? Do you think married people live in a different euphoric dimension? Is it a level up from single people?
Unlikely. Just to be clear, I am not promoting singlism ( yes this is a negative stereotype word used for single people – I was surprised to that it even exist ) nor I encourage marriage.
People should have the freedom to make their own choice without being stigmatized by society.
This is only the west though. In Asia the situation is even more difficult. For everybody but in particular for women.
Out of the 5 most populous countries in the world 4 are found here. China, India, Indonesia and Pakistan. Just to put it to perspective we are talking about well over 3 billion people which is 40% of the world’s population.
Due their cultural difference from the west the question of being married or single has led children and parents to a common source of resentment and frustration.
For instance China has undergone a significant economic and social transformation in recent decades which had compelling impact on the values of the younger generation of Chinese people.
They believe they should be free to choose who and when they wed. This disagreement between parents and children became a pain point.
Also as far as older generation concerned a man should get married by the age of 25 and a woman by the age of 23. If a woman was still single by the end of their twenties they are labeled as “leftover women,”